"Memory believes before knowing remembers." W. Faulkner


My training has taught me to help people examine and describe the life they have, identifying areas in which they are “stuck,” and reconnect to the life-goals that motivated them. Sometimes this stuckness has to do with certain feelings, sometimes it is about past traumas, often it shows up as repeating patterns in significant relationships, and sometimes it manifests as a malaise in which a direction in life seems impossible to find.

Often people have a sense of why they are stuck, but have a hard time bringing all the pieces together in a way that allows new learning to take place. Some things are too painful or terrifying to bear alone. Together, we will seek to find the roots of the stuckness. Once that stuckness is truly experienced and witnessed, it gifts us the perspective and information we need to move forward in life. With new experience, our world becomes a larger and more exciting place, more rich in possibilities; a place where we are more comfortable being - both with ourselves as well as with others.

I practice psychodynamic mind-body psychotherapy, incorporating Relational Psychoanalytic, Experiential Dynamic, Existential-Phenomenlogical, and Buddhist perspectives. My work has been informed by Attachment Theory, Affect Theory, and Interpersonal Neurobiology, and is based in Mindfulness of the present moment.

  • Relational Psychoanalytic: My work is relational, in that the healing process takes place through open dialogue between therapist and client, where the therapist empathically follows a client into difficult psychic spaces, and together they find ways of making the experience bearable.  The understanding that comes from exploring relations bears the fruits of increased confidence and freedom, feelings of integration and wholeness, and a deeper sense of meaning and aliveness.
  • Experiential: My mind-body work with clients is experiential, in that it attempts to bring into present-moment awareness and make meaningful that which has been unconscious and stored in the body. I use the Hakomi Method of Body/Mind Therapy, mindfulness practices, and Eugene Gendlin’s Focusing techniques with clients to help facilitate a dialogue with bodily experience.
  • Dynamic: My practice is psychodynamic in that the processing of early childhood experiences of family mis-attunements in the "here and now" can lead to letting go of limiting, defensive patterns driven by unconscious fears and identifications with the past. 
  • Existential-PhenomenologicalExistentialism teaches us we are essentially free and that can weigh on us heavily.  We can feel guilty for not becoming the person we sense we are capable of being before we pass from this lifetime.  It is up to us as individuals to create meaning in our lives.  Phenomenology teaches us that the more clearly we can describe our particular suffering, the deeper the opportunity for healing. Paradoxically, our particulars reveal to us our common humanity.
  • Buddhist: Buddhism teaches us that there is a fundamental connection between all things; that change and impermanence implies we are only limited by our limited beliefs; and reminds us of the necessity of compassion and generosity towards all beings.
  • Attachment Theory: Every child must be attached to a caregiver, or perish. The strategies (both the good and the bad) we learn in infancy to create attachment to our caregivers tend to persist throughout life. In adulthood, the less adaptive strategies tend to cause people to be labeled by others as insecure, jealous, rageful, needy, or withdrawn. Therapeutic relational experiences can help people gain an earned security. Securely attached, people begin to explore their self and their environment, unlocking their creativity and creating successful relationships. 
  • Affect Theory: So much of the “juice” of human life comes from the sharing and receiving of emotional signals, and yet experiencing and expressing our emotion can feel so vulnerable, or even, forbidden.  By exploring the emotional signals that feel threatening in a safe environment, we unlock the unconscious and new avenues of behavior for the enrichment of our lives.
  • Interpersonal Neurobiology: A new field of clinical practice, best articulated by Daniel Siegel, interpersonal neurobiology attempts to infuse psychotherapy with neurobiological research into how structures in the brain function and relate to one another.  It explains how the interpersonal qualities of mindfulness and compassion can heal the dissociative tears in the mind caused by trauma.
  • Mindfulness: Through the repeated practice of the mind taking as the object of awareness that which is being experienced in the present moment, the mind develops and evolves - emerging out of embeddedness, into the possibilities of a deep peace through acceptance, and a new freedom of choice.  

I also weave in, when appropriate, aspects from the various schools of psychoanalytic thought, Gestalt psychotherapy, self psychology, an Emotionally-Focused-Therapy-styled approach for couples, Nonviolent Communication, Motivational Interviewing, and cognitive-behavioral therapy modalities such as Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. Ultimately, all that I do as a therapist is held in the context and teachings of the Buddhist tradition about self-reflection and compassion.


Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy Institute
Alliance: Northwest Alliance for Psychoanalytic Study
American Mental Health Counselors Association
American Psychological Association: Division of Psychoanalysis (Division 39)
American Balint Society
Northwest Balint Circle: Celebrating Collective Wisdom
COR Northwest Family Development Center
Spiritual Directors International
Washington Mental Health Counselors Association
National Certified Counselor by National Board for Certified Counselors
Washington State Licensed Mental Health Counselor


Hours: Mondays through Thursdays

Free initial consultation session
Fees: $170 hour | $80 groups | $65 classes
Payment: Check, cash, card

Insurance: I will provide a statement with the necessary procedural and diagnostic codes for you to submit for reimbursement.  Please check with your PPO insurance provider about coverage.  
Sliding Scale: Yes, based on household annual income.

contact: trevor@slocumcounseling.com    (206) 309-4224